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By Susan Stiffelman      Rather than coldly admonishing children to “deal with it” when they’re upset, adults need to help frustrated children along to what psychologist Gordon Neufeld calls the Wall of Futility. Children need to feel their real feelings of sadness and find their tears. And when children, often with your help, can come to their tears about whatever they want and can’t have, or whatever is broken and can’t be fixed, they become able to move on — to adapt.  To read entire article.